In the busy lead-up to Christmas, so much of the season revolves around food, celebration, family gatherings, and social events. For anyone living with an eating disorder, this can be an incredibly stressful and overwhelming time. But what’s far less talked about is the silent struggle of those who support them – the parents, partners, siblings, and friends who hold so much together behind the scenes.
This blog shines a light on that hidden experience and offers five practical suggestions to help make the festive season feel a little more manageable for carers.
The Hidden Weight Carers Carry
Supporting someone through an eating disorder takes enormous emotional energy. It requires patience that sometimes feels impossible to maintain, especially when you’re watching someone you love battle with the illness or push through the exhausting work of recovery.
It can be painful, lonely, and frightening. It may feel as though everyone else is enjoying a “perfect” holiday while you’re quietly navigating turmoil indoors. You may feel frustration, sadness, even anger – but not know how to express it. You might worry that speaking honestly will make things worse, trigger a relapse, or create conflict.
That fear often leads to sleepless nights, emotional exhaustion, and a sense of carrying more than you can cope with.
If any of this resonates, you are not alone. And there are ways you can support yourself during this challenging time.
5 Things That Might Help
1. Reach out to Beat
Beat (beateatingdisorders.org.uk) has excellent resources and runs online support groups for carers. They also list what services remain available over the Christmas period. Checking in with professional guidance can offer reassurance and a sense of community.
2. Get some fresh air
Even a gentle 15–30 minute walk can help clear your mind, lower stress, and boost your vitamin D levels. Sometimes, a short break outdoors can reset the emotional intensity of the day.
3. Connect with a friend
Talking to someone outside your immediate family can be grounding. It reduces isolation and helps you feel supported in your own right—not just as a carer.
4. Try yoga or Pilates
These practices can help regulate your nervous system and give your mind a break from constant worry. There are many free beginner-friendly videos on YouTube that you can follow at home.
5. Do something purely for yourself
This doesn’t have to be big or time-consuming. It could be reading a favourite book, taking a long bath, painting your nails, listening to music, or sitting quietly with a pet. Small acts of self-care can make a meaningful difference.
None of these suggestions cost much – and importantly, none revolve around food, which can be a fraught subject at this time of year.
If you’re supporting someone through an eating disorder this Christmas, please remember: your feelings matter too. Caring is incredibly hard work, and you deserve compassion, connection, and moments of rest.
I’d love to hear your thoughts or experiences – feel free to share them.